posts in mom life

I Am That Mom - The One You Can't Pigeonhole

Feb 29, 2016

pigeon on bird house

Reading this blog, you probably think you know a bit about the type of mom I am. (Fill in the blank here for whatever conclusion you've come to).

I used to run a mommy group online. It was a group about natural mothering (read: crunchy parenting). I'm sure those moms think they know the kind of mom I am. Crunchy, right? Total free-range mom!

My friends probably think I'm the no-nonsense mom. Conservative mom?

And my family. Surely they have assumptions (and opinions) on the way I do things. Too unconventional? 

They are all correct. And all incorrect.

The fact is: Only my kids really know the kind of mom I am.

I Am That Mom - The One You Can't Pigeonhole

{This post may contain affiliate links.}
pigeon and birdhouse

I am a crunchy mom.

I am that homebirthing, cloth diapering, baby wearing, breastfeeding, co-sleeping, attachment parenting, all natural mom who looks toward nature and natural medicine.

I believe in old-fashioned, simple living. I believe that traditional ways are the best ways. I believe kids should be kids.

But I'm not a free-range mom.

While I am 100% crunchy granola mom, I am not a free-range parent.

I do believe in letting kids be kids. I also believe in letting nature take it's course. I also believe we're imperfect humans and kids are, by nature, imperfect. They can't be left to their own devices any more than adults can.

All humans need an authority. God, parents, or whoever else that authority or chain of command may be, we need rules and regulations.

I'm not insulting free-range parents. Don't get me wrong. No doubt each of them has their own style, just as each homeschooling family has theirs.

But judging by my free-range friends and acquaintances, I don't fit the mold.

My daughter says, "You're the laid back, fun mom. You're also the dont-gimme-no-lip-do-it-NOW mom."

She's right.

I'm traditional in my beliefs.

I believe in traditional family roles. I believe in no dating until adulthood (and only chaperoned at that time). Teens don't date. Husband working. Mom raising and homeschooling kids. Yadda, yadda, yadda.

But I am an independent, single mom.

I am a self-employed woman and have raised five kids on my own for the most part. 

I do not date. I don't need - or even want - a husband or a boyfriend. (File romantic relations under #aintnobodygottimefodat.) 

My situation is what it is and I'm happy being who I am.

I prefer screen-free living.

As stated, I prefer all things natural. The great outdoors is where they should be, soaking up all nature has to offer. TVs and other screens should not be the focus in their day. 

In fact, until 2012, they lived without screens. (see my screen-free living tips and ideas)

But screens are where I work.

I blog. I work as a social media manager and brand ambassador. To others, it may seem like I live on screens! 

But I don't. 
  • I don't use my phone while traveling around town on errands.
  • Except to post a photo to my Instagram, I don't use social media while doing activities with my kids. 
  • I don't use my phone while socializing with other people.
  • I have certain times/days I perform certain tasks online. Then I continue with my regular life.
It's about balance and not letting screens dominate my world. In other words, I'm paying attention to my kids and enjoying life in the moment rather than scrolling through my FB feed.

I love learning.

I enjoy soaking up all the information I can on any topic that sparks an interest. I can research a topic endlessly, taking breaks only to pee. 

Food? What's that!

Seriously, I can do the most tedious tasks without a break (I taught myself web design for no good reason other than I wanted to know.) 

There is no limit to the amount of time I will spend learning something.

But I am not a nerd. I'm a geek.

While I am a bit of a brainiac, I fall under the category of geek, not nerd.

Yes. There's a difference. 

Geek and Nerd. I could create a venn diagram, but I'm not nerdy enough to bother. Even though I share some traits of a nerd, I definitely lean toward the geek side of things.

Guess what I'm doing today. #geeks #whovians #ocalacomiccon
Posted by The Heart of Michelle on Saturday, June 28, 2014

I do enjoy learning, but I'm not all about academics. I research things madly, but only topics I'm interested in at the moment. 

That could be an academic subject or it could be dogs.

I love Star Trek. I stay on top of all the latest information about social media. I love Hunger Games and going to cons (like Khaotic Con, and AWACon). I'm a geek.

A few highlights from our geekend in Atlanta!#awacon #cosplayers
Posted by The Heart of Michelle on Sunday, September 27, 2015

Want to the know the difference? Check out this infographic.

I don't fit a mom type.

I could probably go on with this list of what I am but what I am not. The point is I can't be typed as a mom. I fit into plenty of categories, and yet I don't fit into any.

I'm like Claire Huxtable crossed with Lorelai Gilmore - with a dash of Roseanne.

How about you? Are you a certain type of mom?

Do you ever feel like that mom?
So do the bloggers at iHomeschool Network.
Click the image below to read more!

Want more posts like this? I can deliver them to your inbox! Subscribe here. 

How to Get Farm to Table Fresh Food Delivered Right to Your Door

Feb 2, 2016

grubmarket online market

I'm all about natural living, including eating real foods. Farmers markets are a favorite for picking up fresh, real food in my local area. 

But did you know you can have farm fresh food delivered right to your door? It's true!

After trying everything in the box, I'm excited to bring this information to YOU! 

Dear Mom Who Puts Things Off for the Perfect Time

Nov 9, 2015

Some of us put off everything from projects to happiness while we wait for everything to be perfect. If you're that mom, this letter is for your.

Dear Mom Who Puts Things off for the Perfect Time,

You know who you are. 

You're the mom who waits for all her ducks to be in a row before taking action. You have many plans, many unfinished, and most never started. 

You want better for your kids. You want better for your marriage, your house, your career, and everything else. You want better, but nothing ever seems to get better, does it? 

For you, there is always an excuse for putting things off.

How eMeals Saves Me Time and Money

Nov 19, 2014

As a single mom, I'm all about saving money and time. As a person, I just hate meal planning. eMeals solves both problems. #frugalliving #mealplanning

How eMeals Saves Me Time and Money

{This post may contain affiliate links.}

I recently found myself irritated with how much time I spend in the kitchen. I only cook from scratch, but I don't always feel like spending half of the day focused on the process.

I also detest menu planning. I am always on the hunt for new recipes or menu ideas, trying to never serve the same thing within a two-week period. 

That takes time. A lot of time. 

By the time I gather all the ideas (including vegetarian recipes for Alexis), organize them into the menu, and create the shopping list, I've lost a lot of time better spent on other things.

I have resolved both problems with eMeals.

Mind you, I tried eMeals in 2009. While I enjoyed the concept, it didn't work for me at the time because the "classic" foods being offered on the menu simply didn't work for us. I'm southern and we just eat differently here. So I left eMeals behind.

Last month I gave emails a second look and I'm so glad I did.

How the eMeals App Saves Time

I no longer have to hunt for recipes. Each week a menu, complete with grocery list, is delivered to my email. I do save these menus to my computer, but I'm not big on printing, especially if there may be meals I want to skip.

Enter the eMeals app.

The app is the perfect solution for me!

Eating Healthy on a Single Mom Budget

Nov 3, 2014

Living on a single mom budget doesn't mean we can't serve healthy meals to our children. Learn how this single homeschooling mom manages to do it.

Each single mom has her own unique experience and challenges. My only real challenge as a single mom is finances. 

There just never seems to be enough money. Ever. Feeding a family on a single mom budget isn't always easy, but I've found what works for us. 

It is entirely possible to feed a family healthy foods on a tight budget. In fact, I spend approximately $65 each week. Here's how.

I Felt Tired and Irritated, but Chose to Feel Blessed Instead

Oct 10, 2014

I was tired and irritated with my situation. I had to change my attitude. I had to see that my complaints should have been blessings counted.

"Cook, cook, cook! And when I'm done, I cook some more."

This is what I was thinking and how I was feeling a few days ago. It seemed no sooner than a meal was cleaned up, I had to begin another. In fact, it didn't just 'seem' that way. 

It really was that way. It is that way.

10 Things That Make This Mama Happy

May 28, 2013

Today, the iHomeschool Network bloggers are writing about what makes them happy or makes their day. I wasn't sure what I was going to write but yesterday was simply inspiring. It was one of those days that brings me great joy. In no particular order, here are.....

10 Things That Make This Mama Happy

1. Nature - This can mean hiking or taking a nature walk. As long as I'm outside, I'm happy. Nature eases anxieties, leads to discoveries, and helps us to understand our Creator a little better. 

The Week Emotions Ran High

May 24, 2013

In my life this week...

Oh, this week. What a mix of emotions it has been! 


When the week began, I was highly stressed because I was trying to build a web store and have it finished by Wednesday night for a Facebook party. I also had blog posts to make, giveaways to post and the party itself. Stress, indeed.

New Business
Then I had the party. It was a great success! I didn't finish the web store but I at least announced that it's coming and hosted some giveaways. Emotions were high! 

Loss of a Family Pet
The following day, I relaxed and had a pretty good day. Until 7pm, that is. At that time, I found my dog having a seizure. I didn't know that's what was happening, but my son did. So we rushed him to the vet. I believe he was brain dead upon arrival. Something was gone from his eyes.

Is Mom Following 'The Way of the Will?'

Mar 7, 2012

Moms struggle like anyone else. Finding balance isn't always easy. We need to strengthen ourselves for these times.

In using the Charlotte Mason method of education, we put a good deal of focus on teaching our children the way of the will. We want them to understand the difference between "I want" and "I will". 

Using "I will" indicates a use of the will power to do what is right. We seek to teach them that the function of the will is to choose and decide. That is the purpose of free will. Volume 6 of the Charlotte Mason series, Chapter 8 is dedicated in it's entirety to this teaching.

But what about Mom?

Is Mom Following 'The Way of the Will?'

  • Is mom using her will power? 
  • Is she using her will or being led by her wants? 
  • Is she choosing to do some things and being lazy in others?
  • Is she allowing herself to be drawn into her 'wants,' choosing to ignore the 'shoulds?'
Do we allow ourselves to 'go with the flow' rather than taking an active role in making a choice to do something we know we should?

That's a very easy thing to do in this day of television, computers and social media, isn't it? Distraction is all around us.

Latest Instagrams

© The Heart of Michelle. Design by FCD.